My personal goals for breaking the bias through action and learning.

Today is International Women’s Day! Women around the world are celebrating by imagining a gender equal world. One free of bias, stereotypes and discrimination. Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Women face bias and stereotypes and discrimination every day in all sorts of settings – even in their own homes. I thought maybe to celebrate today, instead of talking about all the struggles that I’ve had over the years, I’d write about my goals in these areas.

Imagine a gender equal world. A world free of bias, stereotypes and discrimination. A world that’s diverse, equitable, and inclusive. A world where difference is valued and celebrated. Together we can forge women’s equality. Collectively we can allĀ #BreakTheBias.

As a Mother

  • I will be a good role model for my daughters and show them that women can be successful and awesome
  • I will help my daughters set expectations for the world and teach them to hold the world accountable
  • I will keep learning about gender norms and stereotypes and let my daughters teach me what I need to be taught

As a Wife

  • I will stand up for myself when my husband makes “funny jokes” like “I bought you, I own you”
  • I will contribute my fair share
  • I will call out my partner when he makes comments about women

As a Woman in Technology

  • I will blaze the trail for those who come after me
  • I will appreciate all those women who have blazed a trail for me
  • I will challenge stereotypes in the workplace and anywhere
  • I will speak up instead of staying quiet
  • I will support women
  • I will be a mentor and a guide

As a Friend

  • I will stay better connected
  • I will ask what you need
  • I will listen
  • I will celebrate you

As a Woman

  • I will challenge my own bias
  • I will recognize when I’m discriminating against other women
  • I will continue to learn to be a better person
  • I will try to influence others’ beliefs and actions
  • I will celebrate women’s achievements
  • I will help forge a gender equal world
  • I will maintain a gender equal mindset
  • I will forge positive visibility of women

I think we’ve all had those experiences where someone went to a male colleague to ask a question even when that person just has to turn to you and ask the same question. We’ve all had experiences where people have commented on our bodies. We’ve all wondered if our pay is equal. We’ve all been exposed to sexist remarks and comments by all levels of anyone we’ve ever talked to. We’ve all been judged by not just men but other women too. I know that these things will keep happening. I’m choosing to focus on how I can try to change minds and opinions by being a better me. You know, our San Diego User Group did the #IAmRemarkable workshop from Google last month and my biggest takeaway when talking about women promoting themselves was that I need to be a better listener when women are promoting themselves. They aren’t annoying for talking about themself. They aren’t conceited or full of themselves. These women are being brave and showing the way for other women. I need to be better about promoting myself and sharing my story so that others feel more confident in doing the same. And I feel braver because other women have done it before me. And I need to be better about celebrating those stories that these brave women are sharing. Let’s build each other up, ladies! Let’s women support women. Because who run the world? US!

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